SO OFTEN, THE MOST TRAUMATIC EVENTS IN A PERSON’S LIFE DEAL WITH RELATIONSHIPS. LETS TALK ABOUT THE EXPERIENCE OF HAVING A BROKEN HEART. IT IS OUR INSTINCT AS HUMANS TO FIND A MATE. WE ARE DRAWN TO LOVE BY A GREAT FORCE THAT IS SO POWERFUL, IT CAN TAKE US TO GREAT EXTREMES OF PLEASURE AND PAIN. THE EUPHORIA OF A FIRST LOVE ESPECIALLY IS SO INTOXICATING THAT WE FAIL TO SEE AND FEEL THE MORE BASIC REALITIES OF WHO THAT PERSON TRULY IS. THE MATING RITUALS CAN OVER-POWER THE MOST LOGICAL PARTS OF US. THIS MAY GO ON FOR MONTHS OR EVEN YEARS. AS SOME NEGATIVE ASPECTS OF OUR DESIRED LOVE INTEREST BEGINS TO COME INTO FOCUS, THEY ARE OFTEN IGNORED. THEN , WHAT A SHOCK WHEN WE WAKE UP ONE DAY AND THE PERSON OF OUR WILDEST DESIRES DECIDES TO BREAK THE BUBBLE AND END THE STATE OF PARADISE. HOW COULD THAT HAPPEN! WHY WOULD ANYONE WANT TO END SOMETHING SO PRECIOUS AND BEAUTIFUL!   THERE ARE MANY WAYS TO LOOK AT THIS, SO MANY PERSPECTIVES BESIDES THE ONE THAT MAKES US FEEL SMALL, LESS THEN WHO WE REALLY ARE, HUMILIATED , HURT AND ANGRY DEEP TO THE CORE.  I REMEMBER IT WELL AND I LEARNED A LOT FROM IT. SO, HERE ARE SOME PERSPECTIVES THAT CAN BE USEFUL AND CUT SHORT THE TIME OF GRIEVING.    1-WE WERE MEANT TO HAVE AN EXPERIENCE WITH THAT PERSON, BUT NOT A LONG ONE. 2-EVERY RELATIONSHIP-GOOD OR BAD IS A LEARNING EXPERIENCE. 3- IF YOU WERE MEANT TO STAY TOGETHER IT WOULD HAPPEN. THE UNIVERSE FINDS A WAY. 4-STAYING IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT IS NOT MEANT TO BE LONG TERM CAN KEEP US UNAWARE OF WHO WE SHOULD BE WITH. 5-THE EXPERIENCE ITSELF CAN BE AN OPPORTUNITY TO GROW. PERHAPS THAT PERSON SPARKED IN YOU THE DESIRE TO BE BETTER, THEN THEIR JOB IS DONE. 6-THAT HOLLOW PLACE WHICH NO ONE ELSE SEEMS TO FILL, DOES FILL UP IN TIME, ESPECIALLY IF WE DECIDE WE WANT IT TO. 7-IF WE ARE AGE 25-WE MIGHT LIVE ANOTHER 60-70 YEARS. THATS A LOT OF TIME TO FIND LOVE. 8-THIS EXPERIENCE WHICH SOME DESCRIBE AS THE WORST IN THEIR LIVES SOMETIMES LEADS TO GREAT SPIRITUAL AWARENESS. 9-ITS TIME TO HEAL (NOT SELF DESTRUCT)   SO TO SPEED UP HEALING , LOOK BRAVELY AT THE EMOTIONS AND EXPRESS THEM IN A SAFE PLACE. IF YOU DON’T HIDE FROM THE FEELINGS,  DRINK OR DRUG THEM AWAY YOU CAN MOVE THROUGH THEM FASTER AND GET TO THE OTHER SIDE. 10-BE GENTLE AND KIND TO YOURSELF IN EVERY WAY. IF A VOICE IN YOU SAYS “I’M NOT GOOD ENOUGH ” REMEMBER IT IS JUST ONE VOICE. YOU HAVE MANY. 11- THE BEST RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOT ALWAYS THE MOST INTENSE ONES. THERE IS A LOT TO SAY ABOUT PEACE.  12-IF YOU HAPPEN TO BE SUPER SENSITIVE (SEE OLDER POST ON THAT SUBJECT ) THIS IS SURELY AN OPPORTUNITY TO LEARN TO USE IT AND BE YOUR OWN DIRECTOR. 13-THE CONFIDENCE WE LEARN FROM A POWERFUL LOVE MATE IS A NICE ADDITION TO OUR PROGRAMMING. HOWEVER, THE CONFIDENCE WE LEARN FROM OURSELVES IS FAR MORE POWERFUL AND FULFILLING. 14-WHEN YOU GET OLDER AND LOOK BACK-YOU WILL BE HAPPY THAT IT HAPPENED AS IT DID-BELIEVE IT!  AS A HYPNOTHERAPIST , I CAN HONESTLY SAY THAT WHEN I WAS EXPERIENCING THE PAIN OF RELATIONSHIPS , A GOOD HYPNOSIS SESSION WOULD HAVE REALLY HELPED. OF COURSE THAT IS MY WAY. SOME PEOPLE EXERCISE , LOOK UP OLD FRIENDS, GET CREATIVE AND , OR SEE A PROFESSIONAL OF THEIR CHOICE.  WHATEVER YOU CHOOSE, BLESS YOU WITH A HEART THAT UNDERSTANDS. WANDA